How to deal with conflict

"I see you and I feel me"

That's the important thing that you can hear and feel your own stability.

So if it's conflict, you can notice that discomfort, and also don't lose yourself listening to the content of it. Because now, you are getting into an argument of "who's right?"

Remember - you are actually here with your own bones, paying attention and being affected, impacted.

So in conflict, conflict will restore if impact is acknowledged.

Impact is to do with how the other person is experiencing what you say, irrespective of what the intention is. Conflict resolution happens when impact is acknowledged.

So I feel hurt by what you said. You may not have intended it, but you have to acknowledge, “I’m sorry I hurt you.” Because then that acknowledges this person, and you may feel resistance, and you may feel like defending the realm of having hurt that person.

But if we’re used to relational fields that are phase one, you’re going to defend. You’re going to start to get into a heated argument. And it’s automatic. You’ve no control over it, because it’s in the body. It’s a constellation that’s been created way before you had control over it.

However, when you orient and you practice orientation, you still have the resistance, and the big difference is you now have the space around it to be able to acknowledge the impact on the other person. And that’s a mature relational field, acknowledging impact before intention. And then later, understanding comes.

But we live in a society that feels like they go straight to understanding and then negate impact. The impact has to be acknowledged before there’s anything that can recover.

So in this work, we’re building the capacity to be here and we all know how complex it is to be here.
And the only way we’re going to be here at the moment is through what we see, what we hear, what we touch—and then you can speak from being here.

Resiliency Circles are the most powerful resources we have in relation to developing yourself relationally, both in your life and work. These are spaces where you can address and practice situations of conflict or rupture and how to stay with it long enough to repair. 

Here are some exciting opportunites to work with Helena on conflict resolution this Spring both ONLINE and in person! 

🗣️2-Day Empowered Voice Workshop | DUBLIN, IRELAND 🇮🇪
with Helena Walsh
🗓️ Saturday & Sunday | March 21-22

🪴 Empowerment & Resiliency Circles | Online
💛Mondays: March 16 – June 29
💛Tuesdays: April 7 – June 23
💛Wednesdays: April 8 – June 24
💛Thursdays: March 26 – June 25

🌳 2-Day Empowerment & Resiliency Workshop | PARIS, FRANCE 🇫🇷
with Helena Walsh and Silke Foegele @silkemodita
🗓️ April 13-14th

🌳 3-Day Empowerment & Resiliency Workshop | CLONAKILTY, IRELAND 🇮🇪
with Helena Walsh
🗓️July 5-7th

Head to the link in our bio where you can find all things going on at Helena Walsh Empowerment Studios✨

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